When I saw the subject line, entitled, "A Small Bit of Unusual Seriousness," I froze.
As I read the first words of The Lawyer's email, I realized that he was reading this site. If someone hadn't pointed him in the direction of the URL, he had to have at least seen excerpts. Why else would he have written me the following email two nights after I wrote about him being married:
This is a dick move, and I really apologize because it was my suggestion to meet up again and I offered brunch on Sunday, but is it weird and would you hate me if we delayed our next "hanging out" until after the start of November? Seems like a very long way away, so I understand if it is both weird AND you hate me because of it... if that's the case we can talk it out.
I would be a fool not to acknowledge the significance of "after the start of November," so I spent an hour writing a thoughtful, apologetic email about privacy and the inappropriateness of talking about this situation on a site that mutual friends are reading. Right before I hit "send," it occurred to me that what he wrote may have simply been pure coincidence and have had nothing to do with the timing of my last post about him.
Instead, I deleted the email and asked him if any of my actions or writings contributed to whatever prompted his email. He said no, and asked what I was talking about. I never answered.
It's possible that this blog has nothing to do with what he wrote. But, I'm not sure. I need to talk to him, and make sure that it's OK to keep telling this story.
Sorry, internet, this is what happens when your real life and your internet life collide. Oh, and the whole prioritizing studying above blogging thing doesn't help either.
5 comments:
Most of my family and many of my friends have no idea that I blog. But, because some do, I have to be really careful what/who I write about. This becomes frustrating when I feel like I have to edit myself to avoid offense; I started blogging as an outlet for my thoughts and now end up keeping things to myself that I wish I could REALLY write about. Real life and internet life. Will they ever peacefully coexist?
MamaDoodle- My thoughts exactly. I started this blog, so that I could say all of the things that I couldn't say to my friends in real life. Then, I got sloppy and started letting too many people read. And now, I'm confessing to a married lawyer that I've been reposting his private emails to me and waiting for the wrath to hit...
Awesome.
Be careful about which friends you let in on your secret blogging life! Avoid the dramama's!
He's a dirty crook, by the way. AND I HOPE HE READ THAT.
hey, hey, I hear you completely. I'm so careful about posting about work/my dating life/my family because I live in a teensy town and I do not want the Indian Maternal Unit finding out exactly what happened the Friday night before the Saturday I was too *busy* to come home.
Hope everything works out for you! Do keep us posted on how you're doing-I love reading blogs about people who are actually in med school-gives me something to look forward to!
Janice- Stop making me laugh out loud in the med. school library, woman!
dolce vita- Aww, well I'll try to post some more medical things, but I figure the behind-the-scenes dating life is FAR more interesting than the rest of my day. So far, lectures until 4 p.m., then frozen yogurt break with my study partner, then review/quizzing about malaria transmission and treatment, then dinner break/blog break. I know...thrilling. (The dating stuff is so much more interesting, no?)
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