Just In Case You Were Worried About My Dating Life

I've been meaning to write a post about my dating life, since there haven't been any updates since the "I Thought He Stood Me Up" Mixup with Charlie. 

(I know, you've been waiting in agony to hear what's going on.  Well, at least one of you has been waiting.  I'm looking at you, sister of mine.)

Anyway, after my last update about Charlie, I wrote the following entry, but decided not to post it.  I figured three entries about the same man in one day was enough for you kind people.  Here's what happened after his phone call to explain what happened:

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"It seems that Charlie feels really badly about accidentally standing me up today. An hour after he called to deliver the most angst-ridden, apologetic story I have ever heard, he emailed me to apologize again. This time, he wanted to apologize for "dominating the conversation" and then ending it tersely when his contractor showed up to do some work on his house.

That's right. He emailed to apologize for how he delivered his apology.

I do feel badly that Charlie is tormenting himself, but at least he's admitting his wrong and trying to fix it. If he really is a "player," he's a sensitive one. Or, maybe more accurately, an Adventist one who knows that lest he cover his tracks properly, word is going to get around."

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I haven't heard from Charlie since this email.  Of course, I could very well call him, reassure him that I'm not offended by what was clearly a huge series of accidents (I did do this via email, though), and gently prod him in the right direction for the makeup date. 

But, why?

Casual dating has been a fun distraction from my breakup with Rich, as well as a welcome break from the endless monotony of medical school.  But lately, I've been feeling less...motivated. 

I guess I'm just getting tired of wasting time with men I know that I have no interest in pursuing a relationship with and with whom, I will likely not end up being friends.  Perhaps it's a sign of closure from my relationship with Rich, or maybe just a natrual progression towards long-term dating, which is more my style.  I've been feeling like if I'm going to spend an evening out and have fun, I might as well do it with my girlfriends who are going to be around for the long-term.

Speaking of, remember I mentioned how I found a home church with a great group of women my age?  We had our first Girls Night Out two nights ago.  We finally got a chance to talk and get to know each other and I told them about my relationship with Rich.  When they then asked if I had started dating again, my answer was,

"Actually, yes."

So, I probably should not be surprised to have received the following email today.

From:  Andie, New Church Girlfriend
Sent:  February 9, 2011 at 7:10pm
Subject: guyz

I'm sure you don't need help being set up on dates, but I thought of you when my husband was talking about his friend having a hard time even meeting SDA* girls. His name is My Husband's Friend if you want to see what he looks like on facebook. Looks are definitely one top priority for me, lol. I haven't said anything to him or anything just a thought since I always find a lot of SDA guys to be kind of weird when dating.

Did you notice her statement about "SDA guys tend to be kind of weird when dating?"  Ha!  Wait until I let her read this blog.  She has no idea. 



*"SDA" = "Seventh-day Adventist"